Making Decisions

Today was just a leftover day and a typical Monday. The kids had a good time playing outside this afternoon. The rain finally stopped. They took the dogs for a walk one at a time to the end of the street. Cameron is really showing some responsibility and we want to really encourage it where he excels. He really shines when he gets to be the "big brother". Breanna's biological mother called and of course she was in a hurry to go with Cameron and barely talked to her. I think it upset her but you know how kids are they live in the moment. When they got back I asked her if she would like to call her back and she said not really. What do you do in moments like this? Like our situation I'm sure many of you find yourself having to deal with an ex. Breanna doesn't always want to speak to her or even go for visits but we still encourage it. Sometimes it is sad that the kids are in the middle and seem to have to do things just to satisfy a parent. I am thankful that Cameron's father is in agreement to allow him to make choices. He decides when he wants to see or talk to him and his father can call anytime but understands if Cameron isn't interested then accepts my update and we just keep the lines of communication open. I think overall communication is the best and to allow the child to have a little control of things is a positive thing, especially when they are back and forth like Breanna is. We just hope the kids learn to make careful decisions that leads them in the right direction in the future. Here's a tip - I believe you can build a child's self-esteem greatly by allowing them some control of certain situations and trusting them to make the right decision. Before long they will be making wise decisions.